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Wednesday, April 20, 2005

Child on Leash!

MSN features an article entitled, "Running Away". The article provides practical advice for parents who are worried about their toddlers escaping their grasp outdoors. I am curious about the toddler harness. Occasionally I will see a child wearing one of these harnesses, and I can't help but think it's dehumanizing. I know a parent might object, claiming that this is the best way to protect his or her child. What do you think? Would you use a harness or leash to prevent your child from running away?


  • At 4/20/2005 12:27:00 p.m., Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Salaam 'Alaikum

    I don't use one b/c the one time I did, I got such nasty looks from people... of course, those same people would give you a nasty look if you were chasing after a toddler or holding one by the hand who was trying to run all over, or escape from the stroller, or dragging him/herself (ya'ani, like lying down while you're trying to walk). Nor are those people as conscious of the risks your child can put him/herself at, or of his / her safety... but I still don't / wouldn't use one now anyway. -- UZ

  • At 4/20/2005 01:51:00 p.m., Anonymous Yusuf Smith said…

    As-Salaamu 'alaikum,

    My mother used one on me when I was little, and she said I used to run from side to side with the reins (as they're called here) taut. But a lot of parents use them, although I suspect they are less popular now because child buggies have their own straps, so there's less need for them.

    As for dehumanising, well, I don't think it's any more dehumanising than sleeping in a cot with high bars, or any of the other things children have to do differently to adults. If you don't keep hold of them somehow, they may well run away.

  • At 4/20/2005 03:43:00 p.m., Blogger Desiree said…

    I did use the hand 'leash' gadget when my kids were smaller. It depends on the childrens behaviour as well how many and what kinds of crowds there are etc. It really is a matter of safety and may be frowned on by some, but until one has young children they truly can not know if they would use such a gadget. I like yusuf smiths referral to the crib ... which can also apply to the playpen, highchair etc... safety is an issue in many ways, we need to protect the young so they have an oppertunity to grow older.

  • At 4/20/2005 11:43:00 p.m., Anonymous Tasmiya said…

    Salaam alaikum,

    Before I had children I thought they were dehumanising but nowadays I can definitely see the benefits of using one. We never bought one (I prefer to have my younger strapped in a pram while the older one holds onto the pram or walks close by) but I can assure you there were days when I wished we had.

  • At 4/21/2005 12:37:00 a.m., Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Wa'alaykum assalam,

    Safety's not a safe world and kids often run the wrong way. Besides, how much does one remember from that age anyhow?

    Beside's it's all about perspective, Saf. Think of it as an external umbilical cord...a wasila between parent and child that keeps them connected :) That's how I've always looked at them.

    Now studying for exam/writing essay, please, please remember me in your blessed du'as. May Allah give you every tawfiq.

    Your friendly kebob craving sister

  • At 5/19/2005 12:11:00 p.m., Anonymous Anonymous said…

    ABSOLUTELY.. I turn for one second and my daughter is gone. It is a great stress reducer if you can get past the looks from people who don't know what it is like to have a curious toddler who loves to run.


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